270 Your Teen CAN Make Mindful Career Decisions; Crystal Olivarria

November 16, 2017
Crystal Olivarria raised over $70,000 from grants and scholarships to help pay for her own college education at two private colleges; The Fashion Institute of Design and Merchandising in San Francisco and Holy Names University in Oakland, California. Crystal has helped others get into their top chosen college, generate money via grants and scholarships and get hands on experience in their related career field. Crystal provides a safe space to explore options in depth while providing guidance that result in children being able to reach their full potential more easily.

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Most Influential Person

  • My dad. He always taught me to be creative and resourceful. To be resourceful, you have to be mindful of what resources you have and basically how scarce they are.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has made me very aware. It's helped me understand people better because I've noticed my emotions go like this all the time based upon whether I ate, whether I didn't eat, whether I got enough sleep, whether I didn't.
  • Just being really mindful to myself about how I'm feeling, how things are affecting me makes me think about other people when I come in contact with them. Maybe they're having a really bad day and I don't know what they went through.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Whenever I feel like I'm going to have a breakdown, I just remember to breathe. As a kid I used to cry a lot when things weren't going my way. People would say, take a deep breath. Before anything can get better you need to breathe. That's step one and even as an adult I remember that. No matter now things are going, the first step is to take a deep breath.

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Bullying Story

  • I've been on both sides of it. I will definitely say I've been in school and I know what it's like to be harassed and tell and teacher and the teacher not believe you.
  • I've also realized that a lot of times, bullies are emotionally weak and they're struggling and the way they can raise their self-esteem is to pick on someone else.
  • I know when I was in high school, I used to watch this girl being bullied and a lot of it was verbal. They were constantly putting her down no matter what. She was quiet and lonely. So she thought, they want to be my friends and the conversation would start out nice and then would go into this downward spiral.
  • One day I asked her why she was letting these kids bully her. She didn't know what to say. She said, I don't know what to do.
  • So I stepped up and ended up being a bully back to these other girls, just to give them a taste of their own medicine. It didn't matter what they said. I just had this attitude of, I'm rubber, you're glue, whatever you say bounces off of me and sticks to you. It really surprised them because they weren't used to having someone hold them accountable for how mean they were. Fortunately, they never bullied the girl again.

 

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268 Unlock Self-Love With The Mindfulness Key Suggests Joie Cheng

November 9, 2017

Joie Cheng, (M.S.W. Masters of Social Work), is the Self-Love Luminary. She's passionate about helping women love themselves so they can live their best life possible. Joie is a certified professional coach, mentor, healer, circle facilitator, and trained yoga teacher. Joie has a degree in Social Work and Psychology. She is the best-selling author of her book, The Naked Truth: A Woman’s Journey to Self-Love. This book conveys Joie's personal journey of healing herself naturally from depression through self-love.

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Most Influential Person

  • Deepak Chopra

Effect on Emotions

  • I think mindfulness has helped me to not get attached to the stories you get in your head about what something means and just saying, there's a thought and I can just let it pass. I don't have to be attached to it.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Breathing is a really good way to instantly become aware and instantly drop into our body and notice our breath.
  • That's a really simple practice that we can do any time of the day. Just take a couple of deep breaths, especially if we're feeling stress, or are tired or whatever, just to take a few deep breaths. It's an instant state change.

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Bullying Story

  • I was fortunate not to have a lot of bullying when I was a kid.
  • There was this one girl when I was in Junior High, who used to make fun of me for being my race, my ethnicity.
  • She would do that 'eye' thing where she would move her eyes. And she'd say things.
  • Actually I think that I was grateful because mindfulness did help me because I didn't internalize it.
  • It think a lot of kids take it in and they think, oh, there's something wrong with me. So they really think that it's about them, rather than realizing that it's about the other person.
  • When someone bullies you, they're feeling insecure. It really has nothing to do with the person that's being bullied.
  • I just want to say that I really appreciate you making that connection between mindfulness and bullying  because I've never thought about that before and it made me think, yeah, you're right, mindfulness really can help with bullying.
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267 Passionate NLP Instructor Teaches How To Be Limitless; Serena Denmark

November 6, 2017

Serena Denmark is a certified Hypnotherapy Instructor. She teaches her clients to identify unconscious patterns and use NLP and hypnosis to make deep, rapid, lasting changes. Serena experienced a midlife crisis and came to the conclusion that her beliefs were killing her. That’s when she attended an NLP course where she was the class guinea pig. Through this experience she found her new passion in NLP and never looked back.

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Most Influential Person

  • Colleen Fletcher (Spiritual Teacher)

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped me keep that anchor to calm. It's like the pond or the ocean with the ripples on top and the stillness underneath. Even when I may feel agitated or irritated or annoyed, it's that duel experience, that higher perspective alarm, to observe yourself in the moment. I can feel the ripples, but I still have that stillness underneath.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • The breath is so powerful, just physiologically, when you breathe really deeply, you're increasing your intrathoracic pressure which puts stimulation on the vegas nerve which literally slows your heart rate down and interrupts your blood pressure so physiologically, deep breathing calms you down. Also I believe that as we breathe in deeply, we're breathing in prana or chi so we're increasing our wonderful energy that we're bringing into our body. Once you practice the self-hypnosis that's on my website, as soon as you even start to focus on your breathing, you've trained your mind to go into that place of relaxation.

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Bullying Story

  • I grew up in Zambia and I went to a missionary boarding school there. It was kind of in the boonies. It had been started around 1925 and I attended in 1973.
  • Everything was kind of set in time. It was really interesting. They had a water wheel to generate electricity. We had electricity four hours a day. No television or radio; completely cut off from the rest of the world. Hot water was a drum that had a fire built underneathe it.
  • We were away from our parents and there was no outside input, there was no one to run to and no one to discuss your problems with.
  • I think a lot of those schools back in the day were strong on discipline and maybe light on love. Kids are going to find a pecking order. That's just human nature.
  • I was at the bottom of that pecking order and there was one girl in particular who kind of pulled the puppet strings of everyone and I had what I considered a best friend.
  • We would both be willing to betray and abandon each other if we were chosen to be the favored friend by this girl at the top of the pecking order.
  • There was a lot of betrayal, a lot of lost trust and just a very, very, lonely experience. This girl said, you can't sing, your hair's ugly and she had all the power in my mind. I felt bad about myself.
  • I didn't really know how to bond with people because I had moved around a lot. I had lost my ability to really open my heart to people and connect in a real way becauase I didn't know how to trust anymore.
  • I went to the boarding school from age 10 and was there about 4 years.
  • They censored our letters so there was really no communication or way to reach for help.
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266 Build Wealth the Blissful Way; Moneeka Sawyer

November 2, 2017

Moneeka Sawyer is the creator of the Blissful Real Estate Investor Formula and is the international best-selling author of the award-winning book “Choose Bliss: The Power and Practice of Joy and Contentment.” Moneeka has often been described as one of the most joyful people you will ever meet. She believes that we can and should choose bliss in all areas of our lives, including in our business and our investing. Her expertise has been featured on radio and TV including ABC, NBC, and Fox.

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Most Influential Person

  • My parents. They taught me about hard work, determination, focus, breathing, prayer, and joy.

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness is all about emotions. That's what emotional mastery is for me and that's how I live.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I dod a moving meditation every morning. I'm a dancer, I got my legs back and I started to dance and so for ten minutes every morning I do a moving meditation and breathing is a big piece of integrating my mind, my heart, and my body.

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Bullying Story

  • My parents moved to a tiny little town in 1969 and I was the only non-white person in my school. I was tormented constantly. Bullied, tormented, humiliated constantly. I took it on. I was very lonely.
  • That bullying turned into horrible bullying as a teenager when boys took advantage of me. Horrible things happened. The thing is, at one point I realized that life was not going to continue to be that way for me.
  • At the age of twenty-five, I was considering, whether or not I wanted to continue to live. I remember the specific day. Things had been really rough for me and then I was in a horrible car accident in 1991.
  • It was not my fault, but I became a cripple. I was a dancer at the time and my biggest dream was to become an international dancer. Then my legs had been taken away.
  • They wanted to put me in a chair and I did not want to be put into a chair because I wanted to walk and to dance. Things got worse and worse and because I couldn't walk, I spent a lot of time in bed.
  • I remember I had been in bed crying for about a week and I had fallen into a huge depression. I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I had the thought, "I can't do this anymore".
  • There was a little voice inside of me that said. You have to keep on living. Anybody who has been depressed has heard the message, the longer you stay in bed, the worse it gets. I pushed off the covers and tried to get out of bed, but my legs were so weak that I fell to the ground.
  • At that moment I pushed myself up against the bed and I cried and prayed. The prayer was, Oh God, please have mercy. I can't keep doing this, so either bring me home or teach me how to live.
  • An hour later, a girlfriend who hadn't talked to me in about two years, called me out of the blue. She turned me on to a coach who then changed my life.
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265 Mindfully Blend Traditional and Alternative Healing; Michelle Chalfant

October 30, 2017

Michelle Chalfant is a life coach and therapist. Her clients hire her to enable them to find their authentic selves through a holistic approach of blending alternative healing techniques with traditional counseling. Michelle is creator and host of the podcast, The Adult Chair, which is now in its third year of production. The Adult Chair shares impactful messages about codependency, self-love, depression, getting unstuck, removing masks, and how our understanding of ourselves impacts the most important relationships in our lives.

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Most Influential Person

  • John Kabat-Zinn

Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has helped me with my emotions by really getting in touch with what's going on inside of me. I know now to slow down and tune in.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Oh yes. I mean, taking a slow, deep breath just brings me back into present. It brings me back into my body so I know what I'm feeling again. I know where I am. I know what's going on around me. Breath has been huge.

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Bullying Story

  • I was bullied. I never even became aware of it until today. I really didn't. I think what happened ... I witnessed my mom and my uncle for many years.
  • When I was a little girl, in third or fourth grade, I went to a Catholic school. We had the little skirts and I'd get on the bus and this boy would flip my skirt up every day. I'd be so horrified and embarrassed. And I'd say, 'stop lifting my skirt' and he'd make fun of me.
  • Then he started putting his clarinet grease in my hair. I remember coming home, at 9 or 10 years old, and feeling defeated and sad and there's no hope and no one's helping me.
  • I had friends at school, but there was this one boy who used to do this do me every day. I remember just feeling awful and I remember coming home one day and looking at the steak knives and thinking, maybe I should just kill myself because I can't handle this.
  • I remember thinking that thought and thinking, no, I'm not going to do that. I think of the children of today. Is that their only option? That's a whole other story. I'm still here, so I kept going to school.
  • Then I started bullying a little girl on the bus who was really, really, quiet. She didn't say anything, she whispered when she spoke, she was so quiet.
  • I would not have called it bullying until today, honestly. I would sit next to her on the bus and I'd say, why aren't you louder, what's wrong with you? Why are you so quiet? Talk louder. Nobody likes you.
  • I think I was doing that as a reaction to what this kid was doing to me. And to what my uncle was doing to my mom. It was like a domino effect. Because of your show (Mindfulness Mode) I realized I was bullied and I bullied.
  • The bullying with this boy went on for the whole school year and I remember telling my mom and my dad, it's OK. We sweep everything under the carpet. I think it ended at the end of that year and I stopped bullying that girl. I ended up switching school in sixth grade so it was over.
  • I bumped into him years later and I said, what was that about? Why did you put clarinet grease in my hair? And he started laughing and he said, I had a crush on you. I said, well it didn't feel that way, it was not nice. And he said, well, I really liked you and wanted your attention.

Quotes From The Interview

Anxiety is when the body is taking those emotions and bringing them tight inside the body. It's trying to keep them contained like a pressure cooker. So what I do is I slowly take the lid off the pressure cooker. - Michelle Chalfant

We have a cast of thousands inside of us. - Michelle Chalfant

I help you connect with your inner child. - Michelle Chalfant

Anxiety is not an emotion; it's a physical response to unfelt feelings. - Michelle Chalfant

The adolescent part of us does not know what to do with the child so it pushes it away. - Michelle Chalfant

We need our adult to come in and say, I choose to feel my emotions, otherwise we don't do it. - Michelle Chalfant

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264 Creative Marketing Using The Wow of Mindfulness With Diane A Curran

October 26, 2017

Diane A. Curran has been immersed in marketing for a number of years. At one point, she worked on projects for major national direct marketing clients. Later, she became a solopreneur, consulting one-to-one and began Wow Whispering which she has been doing ever since. Diane's commitment to the arts has been equally passionate, making over 4,000 presentations between business and the creative arts, ranging from boardrooms to museums, and even mystical mountaintops in Peru. Diane wrote her biz book trilogy, The Marketing Deck, to give today’s impatient mindset instant access to creative ideas and intuition with custom card games.

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Most Influential Person

  • My sixth grade teacher. She brought her love of art to everyone in the class, no matter what their talents were. She was present and giving to everyone.

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Effect on Emotions

  • Mindfulness has allowed me to pull myself up when I'm feeling the pressure of the stress of a deadline.
  • You say, you know what Diane, here is the deadline and here's how far you are. Let's see what you can get done and not be anxious about it because that just gets in the way of actually accomplishing anything so my emotions are willing to be as wild and crazy as anybody's.
  • But I realize they're [my emotions are] only one part, so they can coexist with something else that I can't even define. I think you've got the word for it - mindfulness.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • I have had to learn to re-breathe because apparently I have a little hitch in my breathing.
  • My various wellness coaches have taught me some breathing techniques. I've learned to slow down and breathe through my diaphragm and just literally become present to the physicallity of breathing.
  • Once I become present to how physical a process it is, it just really evens me out and brings me present and kind of calms down my emotions.

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Bullying Story

  • My experience was a teacher bullying me as a kid, which you would never expect.
  • I have teachers who are just like the light of my life and then I have a second story of kids bullying a teacher.
  • The first experience I had was in the fifth grade. I had a music teacher; I was playing the cello. I had studied it for one year and had been invited into a quartet.
  • We played a concert and it went over really well. I was surprised at how wonderful an experience that was and this teacher, after the concert was over, came to my fifth grade classroom and took me out of my class.
  • He brought me into the hallway and stood there with his arms folded and said, Diane, I want to tell you something important. I know that you are studying piano in addition to studying the cello. Any good muscian has to choose one and they cannot do two instruments because it doesn't work and you have to choose. He was very stern.
  • I said what are you saying and he said, I want you to choose between the cello and the piano. I looked at him and said, are you telling me I have to do that right now? He said, yes. What I said was, in that case, I choose the piano.
  • He turned on his heel and stomped down the corridor and left me there in this darkened hallway and that was the end of my cello career. He forced the choice; he wanted that much control and as you know, bullying involves manipulation and control and power plays and cowardice.
  • If he had been mindful, he might have said, that is not what I was expecting you to say and let's see if we can work something out.
  • Anything could have been better than that.
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263 Conscious Communications for Radical Change; Author Mary Shores

October 23, 2017

Mary Shores is the founder and CEO of a multi-million dollar business, one of the most unique collection agencies in the country. Recognized as a leader of innovative thought, Mary has spent over a decade teaching businesses and individuals how to inspire others, create new ways of thinking, identify and achieve their goals, and take action to create truly meaningful results. She is the revolutionary founder of the groundbreaking Conscious Communications system, which produces positive results through positive action. Mary travels across the nation giving lectures and teaching courses, and has been featured on local and national radio and television shows, podcasts, and blogs.

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Most Influential Person

  • Louis Hay (Author and Publisher)

Effect on Emotions

  • I think it [mindfulness] really connects me to my emotions and it allows me to see especially my triggers.

Thoughts on Breathing

  • Well I've been on a breathing retreat and I can tell you that breathing has been very powerful.
  • One tidbit I'll share is after I went to a breathing retreat once, the dreams I started having were just out of this world.
  • So definitely supplying oxygen to your brain is beneficial.

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